The dark side of sex
Unfortunately, not all aspects of sexuality are positive. Sexual violence is one of the darkest sides of sex — but it’s not actually even about sex. Instead, sexual violence is about power and control. Sexual violence is an umbrella term that includes, but is not limited to, sexual assault and sexual harassment.
One issue that impacts sexual violence is that western society does not yet have all the tools to fully understand and be able to establish consent. While campaigns about consent try to simplify what it means to consent, in reality, it is a much more complex concept.
Researchers are working to understand the nuances of consent. The education system is also starting to teach issues of consent at a younger age so that people are able to fully understand its complexities. Another issue is that norms regarding sexual violence have been created by the rampant sexism, misogyny, and myths in our society. The patriarchy also plays a role. These norms create widespread stigma and downplay the impact of sexual violence. This stigma and the prevalent myths surrounding sexual violence make it difficult for people to come forward.
Due to these issues, many acts of sexual violence are unreported. In Canada, sexual violence is one of the most underreported crimes. The Ontario government states that 460,000 sexual assaults happen every year, but only approximately three per cent of these incidents are reported. It is estimated that for every 1,000 acts of sexual assault, only 33 are reported, with only 12 having charges laid, six being prosecuted, and three leading to convictions. This does not mean that there is a large number of false reports, but that the justice system needs to change.
These issues may seem too big to solve, especially by any one person, but changes can be made. These continued discussions help to challenge and change societal ideas. Sexual violence needs to continue to be at the forefront. Things are getting better, but we need to keep pushing. This past year has seen an increase in discussions about sexual violence, especially with Hollywood keeping the conversation at the forefront of award shows and starting the Time’s Up campaign. Additionally, the conversation around sexual violence has been continued as celebrities, including actresses and athletes, come forward with their stories and show their support for survivors.
Continuing the conversation helps bring about public education and awareness. Through these discussions and through research we can better understand consent and healthy relationships.
Sexual violence is an international problem that affects one in three women and one in six men.
While sexual violence can affect anyone, some groups of people are more likely to be affected, including:
- Women
- Indigenous peoples
- People under the age of 24
- People who are single
- People who are unemployed or low income
- People who have disabilities
- People who are institutionalized
Due to the high prevalence of sexual violence at post-secondary institutions, these institutions are also working to put sexual violence committees, policies, and campaigns in place.
The University of Guelph has such committees, policies, and campaigns. In addition to the provincial Draw the Line campaign, U of G has the S.A.F.E. (sexual assault free environment) program, which works to educate the community through events and workshops, including the “Can I Kiss You?” presentation during Orientation Week. Last year the ‘Stop. Ask.’ campaign was also implemented. This consent campaign aims to remind everyone that the onus is on them to stop and ask for consent, and to stop if someone does not consent.
Photo edited by Alora Griffiths/The Ontarion