Dear “need some extra help”:
With advancing stresses nearing the end of the academic semester, your concerns for life-balance are shared by many. So often, when we have problems coping, we feel alone and vulnerable to criticism or even judgement. Be assured that you are not alone in your outlook, and remind yourself that most people are busy enough with their own lives that they won’t be giving up much time “thinking” about (judging) anyone. Fear of judgement can inhibit us from making quality and valuable decisions—so let’s cross that one off of our list first! Next, spend some time remembering a time when you have overcome anxieties in the past. When we are in a state of fear and negativity, it may take some work finding an experience where we can actually visualize and remember the feeling of overcoming a series of obstacles in achieving our goals. After an illness and “dragging yourself through your classes” for 10 days, you are physically run-down and academically stressed. It is important to draw on strengths. As I have stated in the past, repeating positive beliefs in a brief series of descriptive words is a powerful measure toward quality outcomes. Write down these words beginning with – I am (resourceful, resilient, friendly, loyal, …etc.) and I will (survive, excel, conquer, succeed). Talk to yourself as if you were your best friend!
If you need more structure to your plan, remember that there are excellent counselling service right on campus in the University Centre. If it is really urgent, they can see you Monday-to-Friday as a walk-in from 12:30 to 3:30 p.m. You can call, however, in advance for an appointment.
There is also a group of trained counsellors ready to take your call any time at Good 2 Talk.
Thank you for sharing your experience. Others need to hear these words too!
Take action,
Elann
Email: dearelann@gmail.com for advice and help.